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Making the Effort

I rarely watch tv, but the other night, I was flipping through the channels. I landed on the Comedy Network. The comedian was talking about how his wife once wore thong underwear but after years of marriage wore ‘white panel things’. She complained ‘where’s the romance’. He quipped ‘in your underwear drawer’.

A couple years ago, that comment would have ticked me off. Why should she have to wear a thong to be attractive to her partner? The truth is, she doesn’t. However, most of us, when we are dating, put in a real effort. We dress up nicely. We wear clean underwear. We don’t define Costco undies as sexy...and we definitely wouldn’t be caught dead in ‘shapewear’.

I tend to get a lot of people in the store in ‘new’ relationships. They are having fun and just want to feel sexy. The ‘play’ in their relationship is still there.

I know how easy it is to become comfortable. I mean, not to be crude, but the first time you can fart and not die of utter embarrassment is ... well.... good. There is a wonderful peace that comes with that level of comfort. However, it can go too far.

I have to tell you: I buy underwear at Costco. Not all my underwear, but my ‘period panties’ are definitely comfortable. One day, my husband pointed out that most of my underwear was ‘period panties’. He was right. I had gone too far. I know he loves me and doesn’t judge me for my underwear but it was a sign that we weren’t making the same effort as we once did.

So, I would challenge everyone to make a small effort. A small effort is better than no effort.